## Ketubot Daf 62a

###### Ketubot 62a:1
[Ketubot 62a:1](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Ketubot/r/62a:1)

אוֹרְחָא דְמִילְּתָא כַּמָּה? אָמַר רַב: חֹדֶשׁ כָּאן, וְחֹדֶשׁ בַּבַּיִת. שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״לְכׇל דְּבַר הַמַּחְלְקוֹת הַבָּאָה וְהַיּוֹצֵאת חֹדֶשׁ בְּחֹדֶשׁ לְכֹל חׇדְשֵׁי הַשָּׁנָה״. וְרַבִּי יוֹחָנָן אָמַר: חֹדֶשׁ כָּאן וּשְׁנַיִם בְּבֵיתוֹ, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״חֹדֶשׁ יִהְיוּ בַלְּבָנוֹן שְׁנַיִם חֳדָשִׁים בְּבֵיתוֹ״.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
The Gemara explains its query: Although a man can legally make any agreement with his wife to limit her conjugal rights, **how much** is an acceptable **manner for this matter? Rav said:** The husband may spend **a month here,** in the study hall, **and** then must spend **a month at home.** The allusion to this is **as it is stated** with regard to reserve units serving in King David’s army: **“In any matter of the courses, which came in and went out month by month throughout all the months of the year”** (I Chronicles 27:1). **And Rabbi Yoḥanan said:** He may spend **one month here,** in the study hall, **and** then **two** months **in his home, as it is stated** with regard to workers who worked in the construction of the Temple: **“A month they were in Lebanon, and two months at home”** (I Kings 5:28).


###### Ketubot 62a:2
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וְרַב נָמֵי, מַאי טַעְמָא לָא אָמַר מֵהַהִיא? שָׁאנֵי בִּנְיַן בֵּית הַמִּקְדָּשׁ, דְּאֶפְשָׁר עַל יְדֵי אֲחֵרִים: וְרַבִּי יוֹחָנָן מַאי טַעְמָא לָא אָמַר מֵהַהִיא? שָׁאנֵי הָתָם, דְּאִית לֵיהּ הַרְוָוחָה.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
The Gemara asks: **And what is the reason** that **Rav did not also say** a proof **from that** source that Rabbi Yoḥanan quoted? The Gemara answers: **The construction of the Temple is different, since it is possible** for this work to be performed **by others,** as there were many people involved in it, but with regard to Torah study, which cannot be performed by others, he is given permission to spend a month here and a month there. The Gemara further questions: **And what is the reason** that **Rabbi Yoḥanan did not say** a proof **from that** source that Rav quoted? The Gemara answers: **There,** with regard to King David, **it is different, since he gains profit** from working for the king; since there is profit involved, his wife might be willing to forgo his staying with her. However, in general a woman wants her husband to spend most of his time at home, so with regard to Torah study, where there is no monetary profit, she will not waive her right for as long.


###### Ketubot 62a:3
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אָמַר רַב: אֲנָחָה שׁוֹבֶרֶת חֲצִי גּוּפוֹ שֶׁל אָדָם, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״וְאַתָּה בֶן אָדָם הֵאָנַח בְּשִׁבְרוֹן מׇתְנַיִם וּבִמְרִירוּת תֵּאָנַח״. וְרַבִּי יוֹחָנָן אָמַר: אַף כׇּל גּוּפוֹ שֶׁל אָדָם, שֶׁנֶּאֱמַר: ״וְהָיָה כִּי יֹאמְרוּ אֵלֶיךָ עַל מָה אַתָּה נֶאֱנָח וְאָמַרְתָּ אֶל שְׁמוּעָה כִי בָאָה וְנָמֵס כׇּל לֵב וְרָפוּ כׇל יָדַיִם וְכִהֲתָה כׇל רוּחַ וְכׇל בִּרְכַּיִם תֵּלַכְנָה מַּיִם״.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
§ Apropos a dispute between Rav and Rabbi Yoḥanan with regard to the construction of the Temple, the Gemara cites another dispute between them. **Rav said: Groaning breaks half of a person’s body, as it is stated: “Groan, therefore, you son of man, with the breaking of your loins, groan so bitterly”** (Ezekiel 21:11), which indicates that groaning breaks half of one’s body, down to his loins. **And Rabbi Yoḥanan said** that groaning breaks **even a person’s entire body, as it is stated: “And it shall be, when they say to you: Why are you groaning? That you shall say: Due to the tiding, for it comes, and every heart shall melt, and all hands shall be slack, and every spirit shall be faint, and all knees shall drip with water”** (Ezekiel 21:12).


###### Ketubot 62a:4
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וְרַבִּי יוֹחָנָן נָמֵי, הָכְתִיב ״בְּשִׁבְרוֹן מׇתְנַיִם״! הָהִיא דְּכִי מַתְחֲלָא — מִמׇּתְנַיִם מַתְחֲלָא. וְרַב נָמֵי, הָכְתִיב: ״וְנָמֵס כׇּל לֵב וְרָפוּ כׇל יָדַיִם וְכִהֲתָה כׇל רוּחַ״! שָׁאנֵי שְׁמוּעָה דְּבֵית הַמִּקְדָּשׁ, דְּתַקִּיפָא טוּבָא.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
The Gemara asks: **And** why doesn’t **Rabbi Yoḥanan also** say that it breaks half of one’s body? **Isn’t it written: “With the breaking of your loins,”** implying that it does not break the entire body? The Gemara answers: **This** does not mean that the breakage only reaches the loins, but rather **that when** the sigh **begins** to affect a person, **it begins from his loins.** The Gemara asks: **And** why doesn’t **Rav also** say that it breaks the entire body? **Isn’t it written: “And every heart shall melt, and all hands shall be slack, and every spirit shall be faint,”** which indicates that groaning causes the entire body to break? The Gemara answers: **The news with regard to** the destruction of **the Temple is different, as it is extremely crushing** and causes great anguish, but in general a sigh causes only half of the body to break.


###### Ketubot 62a:5
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הָהוּא יִשְׂרָאֵל וְגוֹי דַּהֲווֹ קָאָזְלִי בְּאוֹרְחָא בַּהֲדֵי הֲדָדֵי. לָא אִימְּצִי גּוֹי לְסַגּוֹיֵי בַּהֲדֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל. אַדְכְּרֵיהּ חוּרְבַּן בֵּית הַמִּקְדָּשׁ, נְגִיד וְאִיתְּנַח, וַאֲפִילּוּ הָכִי לָא אִימְּצִי גּוֹי לְסַגּוֹיֵי בַּהֲדֵיהּ. אֲמַר לֵיהּ: לָאו אָמְרִיתוּ ״אֲנָחָה שׁוֹבֶרֶת חֲצִי גּוּפוֹ שֶׁל אָדָם״? אֲמַר לֵיהּ: הָנֵי מִילֵּי מִילְּתָא חַדְתִּי, אֲבָל הָא דַּשְׁנַן בָּהּ — לָא. דְּאָמְרִי אִינָשֵׁי: (דְּמַלְּפִי) [דְּמַלְּפָא] תִּכְלֵי — לָא בָּהֲתָה.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
It is related that **a certain Jew and a gentile were walking along the road together. The gentile could not keep up with the Jew,** who was walking faster, and **he** therefore **reminded him of the destruction of the Temple** in order to make the Jew feel sorrowful and slow down. **The Jew sighed and groaned, but even so the gentile could not keep up with him,** as the Jew was still walking faster. The gentile **said to him: Don’t you say that groaning breaks half of a person’s body?** Why didn’t it affect you? **He said to him: This applies only** with regard to **a new** sorrowful **affair, but this,** from **which we have** suffered **repeatedly** and to which we have become accustomed, does **not** affect us as much, **as people say: One who is used to being bereaved** of her children **does not panic [*bahata*]** when one of them dies, and similarly, one who is used to a tragedy is not as devastated when being reminded of it.


###### Ketubot 62a:6
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הַטַּיָּילִין בְּכׇל יוֹם. מַאי ״טַיָּילִין״? אָמַר רָבָא: בְּנֵי פִירְקֵי. אֲמַר לֵיהּ אַבָּיֵי: מַאן דִּכְתִיב בְּהוּ ״שָׁוְא לָכֶם מַשְׁכִּימֵי קוּם מְאַחֲרֵי שֶׁבֶת אוֹכְלֵי לֶחֶם הָעֲצָבִים כֵּן יִתֵּן לִידִידוֹ שֵׁנָא״, וְאָמַר רַב יִצְחָק: אֵלּוּ נְשׁוֹתֵיהֶן שֶׁל תַּלְמִידֵי חֲכָמִים, שֶׁמְּנַדְּדוֹת שֵׁינָה מֵעֵינֵיהֶם בָּעוֹלָם הַזֶּה, וּבָאוֹת לְחַיֵּי הָעוֹלָם הַבָּא, וְאַתְּ אָמְרַתְּ בְּנֵי פִירְקֵי?!

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
§ The mishna said that **men of leisure** must engage in marital relations with their wives **every day.** The Gemara asks: **What** is meant by the term **men of leisure? Rava said:** These are **students** of Torah who go daily to review **their lectures** at a local study hall and return home each evening. **Abaye said to him:** Wives of Torah scholars are **those about whom it is written: “It is vain for you to rise early and sit up late, you that eat the bread of toil, so He gives to His beloved in sleep”** (Psalms 127:2), **and Rabbi Yitzḥak said** in explanation of this verse: **These are the wives of Torah scholars who deprive their eyes of sleep in this world and reach the life of the World-to-Come.** This indicates that Torah scholars exert themselves greatly in their studies and are not home in the evenings, **and you say** that the **students** reviewing **their lectures** are men of leisure, whose wives have conjugal rights for every night?


###### Ketubot 62a:7
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אֶלָּא אָמַר אַבָּיֵי: כִּדְרַב, דְּאָמַר רַב: כְּגוֹן רַב שְׁמוּאֵל בַּר שִׁילַת, דְּאָכֵיל מִדִּידֵיהּ, וְשָׁתֵי מִדִּידֵיהּ, וְגָנֵי בְּטוּלָּא דְאַפַּדְנֵיהּ, וְלָא חָלֵיף פְּרִיסְתְּקָא דְמַלְכָּא אַבָּבֵיהּ. כִּי אֲתָא רָבִין אָמַר: כְּגוֹן מְפַנְּקִי דְמַעְרְבָא.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**Rather, Abaye said:** The mishna should be explained **in accordance with the opinion of Rav, as Rav said:** This is referring to a man **such as Rabbi Shmuel bar Sheilat, who ate his own** food, **drank his own** drinks, **slept in the shade of his own house, and the king’s tax collector [*peristaka*] did not pass by his door,** as they did not know that he was a man of means. A man like this, who has a steady income and no worries, is called a man of leisure. **When Ravin came** from Eretz Yisrael **he said: For example, the** wealthy, **pampered** men **in the West,** Eretz Yisrael, are called men of leisure. Due to the time they have available and the richness of their diet, they have the ability to satisfy their wives every night.


###### Ketubot 62a:8
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רַבִּי אֲבָהוּ הֲוָה קָאֵי בֵּי בָאנֵי. הֲווֹ סָמְכִי לֵיהּ תְּרֵי עַבְדֵי. אִיפְּחִית בֵּי בָאנֵי מִתּוּתֵיהּ, אִיתְרְמִי לֵיהּ עַמּוּדָא, סְלֵיק וְאַסְּקִינְהוּ. רַבִּי יוֹחָנָן הֲוָה קָסָלֵיק בְּדַרְגָּא, הֲווֹ סָמְכִי לֵיהּ רַב אַמֵּי וְרַב אַסִּי. אִיפְּחִתָא דַּרְגָּא תּוּתֵיהּ, סְלֵיק וְאַסְּקִינְהוּ. אָמְרִי לֵיהּ רַבָּנַן: וְכִי מֵאַחַר דְּהָכִי, לְמָה לֵיהּ לְמִיסְמְכֵיהּ? אֲמַר לְהוּ: אִם כֵּן מָה אַנִּיחַ לְעֵת זִקְנָה?

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
To illustrate this point, the Gemara relates two incidents demonstrating the health and strength of the inhabitants of Eretz Yisrael: **Rabbi Abbahu was** once **standing in the bathhouse and two slaves were supporting** his walking. **The bathhouse collapsed under him** and was destroyed. **He found a pillar,** stood on it and **got out, and pulled them** both **up** with him. Similarly, **Rabbi Yoḥanan was** once **going up stairs,** and **Rav Ami and Rav Asi were supporting** him. **The stair collapsed under him, but he went up and pulled them** both **up** with him. **The Sages said to him: Since** it is clear that you are **so** strong, **why do you need** people **to support you? He said to them: If so,** if I were to expend all my strength now, **what will I leave for** myself in my **old age?**


###### Ketubot 62a:9
[Ketubot 62a:9](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Ketubot/r/62a:9)

וְהַפּוֹעֲלִים שְׁתַּיִם בַּשַּׁבָּת. וְהָתַנְיָא: הַפּוֹעֲלִים אַחַת בַּשַּׁבָּת! אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹסֵי בְּרַבִּי חֲנִינָא, לָא קַשְׁיָא: כָּאן בְּעוֹשִׂין מְלָאכָה בְּעִירָן, כָּאן בְּעוֹשִׂין מְלָאכָה בְּעִיר אַחֶרֶת. תַּנְיָא נָמֵי הָכִי: הַפּוֹעֲלִים שְׁתַּיִם בַּשַּׁבָּת, בַּמֶּה דְּבָרִים אֲמוּרִים — בְּעוֹשִׂין מְלָאכָה בְּעִירָן, אֲבָל בְּעוֹשִׂין מְלָאכָה בְּעִיר אַחֶרֶת — אַחַת בַּשַּׁבָּת.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
§ The mishna said: The set interval for **laborers** to fulfill their conjugal obligations to their wives is **twice a week.** The Gemara asks: **Isn’t it taught** in a *baraita*: For **laborers, once a week? Rabbi Yosei, son of Rabbi Ḥanina, said:** This is **not difficult: Here,** the case is **where they work in their own city. There,** the case is **where they work in another city. This is also taught** in the *Tosefta* (5:6): For **laborers, twice a week. In what** case **is this statement said?** It is **when they work in their own city, but when they work in another city,** the set interval for their conjugal obligations is **once a week.**


###### Ketubot 62a:10
[Ketubot 62a:10](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Ketubot/r/62a:10)

הַחַמָּרִים אַחַת בַּשַּׁבָּת. אֲמַר לֵיהּ רַבָּה בַּר רַב חָנָן לְאַבָּיֵי: אִיכְּפַל תַּנָּא לְאַשְׁמוֹעִינַן טַיָּיל וּפוֹעֵל? אֲמַר לֵיהּ: לָא,

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
§ The mishna said: The set interval for **donkey drivers** is **once a week,** and for other professions it is even less frequent. **Rabba bar Rav Ḥanan said to Abaye: Did the *tanna* go to all that trouble just to teach us** the *halakha* for **a man of leisure and** for **a laborer?** According to the set intervals given for conjugal obligations, it seems that the *halakha* that one who vowed to prohibit his wife from conjugal relations for longer than a week must divorce her is referring only to a man of leisure or a laborer, whose set interval for conjugal relations is less than that period. However, for other people, whose set interval is once a month or even less frequent, there should be no need to divorce the wife, since the vow does not deprive her of conjugal rights for longer than she would have been deprived anyway. **He said to him: No,**