## Kitzur Shulchan Arukh Siman 210

###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:1
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אָסוּר בְּתַלְמוּד תּוֹרָה, מִשּׁוּם דִּכְתִיב פִּקּוּדֵי ה' יְשָׁרִים מְשַׂמְּחֵי לֵב, וְאָבֵל אָסוּר בְּשִׂמְחָה. וְאָסוּר בַּתּוֹרָה, נְבִיאִים וּכְתוּבִים, מִשְׁנָה, תַּלְמוּד, הֲלָכוֹת וְאַגָּדוֹת. אֲבָל מֻתָּר לִקְרוֹת בְּאִיּוֹב וּבְקִינוֹת, וּבִדְבָרִים הָרָעִים שֶׁבְּסֵפֶר יִרְמְיָה, וּבִגְמָרָא פֶּרֶק אֵלּוּ מְגַלְּחִין, דְּמַיְרִי מִדִינֵי מְנֻדֶּה וְאָבֵל, וּבְמַסֶּכֶת שְׂמָחוֹת. וּבְסִפְרֵי פּוֹסְקִים, מֻתָּר לִלְמוֹד הִלְכוֹת אֲבֵלוּת. וְגַם בִּדְבָרִים שֶׁהוּא מֻתָּר לִלְמוֹד, אָסוּר לְעַיֵן קֻשְיָא אוֹ תֵרוּץ.

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
A mourner is forbidden to study Torah, for it is written, "The precepts of *Adonoy*, are upright, rejoicing the heart."¹ 19:9. and a mourner is forbidden to rejoice. He is forbidden to study the Scriptures, the *Mishnah*, and the *Talmud*, including the laws and *Aggadah*. But he is permitted to read the book of *Job, Lamentations*, and the mournful sections of *Jeremiah*. In the *Talmud*, he may study chapter, *V'eelu Megalchin*,². dealing with the laws of the excommunicated and the mourner, and also *Maseches Semachos*. And in the *Seforim* (books) of *Halachah* (laws), he may study the laws concerning mourning. However, he is forbidden to probe and analyze even the subjects he is permitted to study.

footnotes:
¹ Psalms
² The third chapter of Masechess Moed Kattan


###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:2
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מְלַמֵּד שֶׁהוּא אָבֵל, לְאַחַר שְׁלשָׁה יָמִים, מֻתָּר לוֹ לִלְמוֹד עִם הַתִּינוֹקוֹת כָּל הַדְבָרִים שֶׁצְּרִיכִין, וְלֹא יִתְבַּטְּלוּ מִלִּמּוּדָם, כִּי תִינוֹקוֹת שֶׁל בֵּית רַבָּן אֲשֶׁר הֶבֶל פִּיהֶם נָקִי מֵחֵטְא, חָבִיב יוֹתֵר מִלִּמּוּד שֶׁל גְּדוֹלִים. וְכֵן אָבֵל שֶׁיֶשׁ לוֹ בָּנִים קְטַנִּים, לֹא יִתְבַּטְּלוּ מִלִּמּוּדָם, שֶׁהֲרֵי אֵינָם חַיָבִים בַּאֲבֵלוּת.

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
After three days of mourning, one who teaches Torah to children is permitted to teach the children everything they need to learn, so that they are not interrupted from their studies; for the (study of) children whose mouths are pure of sin, is more precious than the study of adults. Likewise a mourner's young children should not be interrupted from their studies, for they are not obligated to observe mourning.


###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:3
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אֲפִלּוּ הָאָבֵל הוּא כֹהֵן וְאֵין בְּבֵית הַכְּנֶסֶת אַחֵר, אָסוּר לוֹ לַעֲלוֹת לַתּוֹרָה.

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
Even if the mourner is a *Kohein* and there is no other *Kohein* in the synagogue, he is forbidden to go up to read the Torah.


###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:4
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בִּתְפִלָּתוֹ כָּל שִׁבְעָה, לֹא יֹאמַר פִּטוּם הַקְּטֹרֶת, וְגַם לֹא יֹאמַר סֵדֶר מַעֲמָדוֹת. וּבְפֶרֶק אֵיזֶהוּ מְקוֹמָן, לֹא יֹאמַר יְהִי רָצוֹן כְּאִלּוּ הִקְרַבְתִּי וְכוּ' (דְּאָבֵל אֵינוֹ מְשַׁלֵּחַ קָרְבְּנוֹתָיו). וּכְשֶׁעוֹשֶׂה הַבְדָּלָה בְּמוֹצָאֵי שַׁבָּת עַל הַכּוֹס, לֹא יֹאמַר פְּסוּקֵי שִׂמְחָה שֶׁקּוֹדְמִים לָהּ, אֶלָּא יַתְחִיל מִן הַבְּרָכוֹת.

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
When he prays during all seven days of mourning, a mourner should not recite *Pittum Haketoress, Keitsad* [How was the incense compounded] nor should he say *Maamados*, and after the Chapter of *Eizehu Mekoman*,³ is recited daily. he should not say *Yehi Ratzon* etc. [May it be Your will] (because a mourner may not send offerings). When reciting *Havdalah* at the conclusion of Shabbos over a cup [of wine], he should not say the introductary verses of joy, but should begin immediately with the *berachos*.

footnotes:
³ “Where are the offerings slaughtered.” This chapter of Mishnayos


###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:5
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אָבֵל תּוֹךְ שִׁבְעָה, אֵין לוֹ לְהִתְפַּלֵּל לִפְנֵי הַתֵּבָה אֶלָּא אִם אֵין שָׁם אַחֵר שֶׁיִתְפַּלֵל. אַךְ אִם הוּא אָבֵל עַל אָבִיו אוֹ אִמּוֹ, נוֹהֲגִין שֶׁמִּתְפַּלְּלִין לִפְנֵי הַתֵּבָה, אַף עַל פִּי שֶׁיֶשׁ שָׁם אַחֵר. וּבְשַׁבָּתוֹת וְיָמִים טוֹבִים, נוֹהֲגִין שֶׁאֵינוֹ מִתְפַּלֵל לִפְנֵי הַתֵּבָה כָּל הַשָּׁנָה אֶלָּא בִּדְלֵיכָּא אַחֵר. וְאִם הָיָה דַרְכּוֹ לְהִתְפַּלֵּל לִפְנֵי הַתֵּבָה גַּם קֹדֶם שֶׁנַּעֲשָּה אָבֵל, יֵשׁ לְהַתִּיר בְּכָל עִנְיָן (מֵּאִיר נְתִיבִים סִימָן פ). וְעַיֵּן לְעֵיל סִימָן קכח סָעִיף ח (שעו שפד)

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
During his seven days of mourning a mourner should not officiate as *Chazzan* unless there is no one else to lead the prayers. But if he is in mourning for his father or mother, the custom is to permit him to be the *Chazzan* even if there is someone else capable of doing so. It is customary that a mourner not be the *Chazzan* on Shabbos and Yom Tov⁴ and *Kail Erech Appaim* are not said, a mourner should not be the *Chazzan*, except on the day before *Yom Kippur*. *Biur Halachah* 132. On *Rosh Chodesh* he may be the *Chazzan* for *Shacharis*, provided someone else continues with the *Hallel*. However, the *Chayei Adam* says that the *Gra* did not allow a mourner to be the *Chazzan* at *Shacharis* on *Rosh Chodesh*. *Mishna Berurah* 581:7. A mourner should not be the *Chazzan* at *Shacharis* on *Chanukah*. *Mishna Berurah* 683:1 A mourner is allowed to be *Chazzan* at *Mincha* and *Ma’ariv* on *Chanukah*. But not on *Chol Hamoed*. *Mishna Berurah* 671:44—*Peri Megadim*. during his entire year⁵ 581:7. [of mourning] unless there is no one else to do so.⁶ as accurately as he, he should read it for everyone. *Mishnah Berurah* 696:12. If he was accustomed to be the *Chazzan* even before he became a mourner, he is permitted to do so in any event. See Chapter 128:8 above.

footnotes:
⁴ On days when Lamanetzaiach
⁵ If he is mourning the loss of a parent, or thirty days if he is mourning the loss of another relative. Mishnah Berurah
⁶ If no one else can read the Megillah


###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:6
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שְׁאִילַת שָׁלוֹם כֵּיצַד. שְׁלשָׁה יָמִים הָרִאשוֹנִים, אֵינוֹ שׁוֹאֵל בִּשְׁלוֹם כָּל אָדָם. וְאִם אֲחֵרִים שֶׁלֹּא יָדְעוּ שֶׁהוּא אָבֵל שָׁאֲלוּ בִשְׁלוֹמוֹ, לֹא יְשִׁיבֵם שָׁלוֹם, אֶלָּא יוֹדִיעֵם שֶׁהוּא אָבֵל. וּלְאַחַר שְׁלֹשָׁה עַד שִׁבְעָה, אֵינוֹ שׁוֹאֵל. וְאִם אֲחֵרִים שֶׁלֹּא יָדְעוּ שָׁאֲלוּ בִשְׁלוֹמוֹ, מֵשִׁיב לָהֶם. מִשִּׁבְעָה עַד שְׁלֹשִׁים, הוּא שׁוֹאֵל בִּשְׁלוֹם אֲחֵרִים, שֶׁהֲרֵי הָאֲחֵרים שְׁרוּיִן בְּשָׁלוֹם. וְאֵין אֲחֵרִים שׁוֹאֲלִין בִּשְׁלוֹמוֹ, שֶׁהֲרֵי הוּא אֵינוֹ שָׁרוּי בְשָׁלוֹם. וְאִם לֹא יָדְעוּ וְשָׁאֲלוּ, מֵשִׁיב לָהֶם. לְאַחַר שְׁלֹשִׁים, הֲרֵי הוּא כִּשְׁאָר כָּל אָדָם.

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
What is the rule concerning the exchange of greetings? During the first three days, a mourner must not greet anyone. If others who are unaware that he is a mourner greet him, he should not return the greeting, but should inform them that he is a mourner. From the third day until the seventh day, he must not greet anyone, but if others who unaware that he is a mourner greet him, he may respond to their greetings. From the seventh until the thirtieth day, he may extend greetings to others for they have peace of mind, but others should not greet him because he lacks peace of mind. If they did not know he is a mourner and they greeted him, he may respond to their greetings. After thirty days, he may exchange greetings like anyone else.


###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:7
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כֵּיוָן שֶׁהוּא אָסוּר בִּשְׁאֵילַת שָׁלוֹם, מִכָּל שֶׁכֵּן שֶׁאָסוּר בִשְׂחוֹק. וְלָכֵן כָּל שִׁבְעָה לֹא יֹאחַז תִּינוֹק בְּיָדוֹ, כְּדֵי שֶׁלֹּא יְבִאֶנּוּ לִידֵי שְׂחוֹק. וְכֵן אָסוּר לוֹ לְהַרְבּוֹת בִּדְבָרִים עִם הַבְּרִיּוֹת. אַךְ אִם עוֹשֶׂה לִכְבוֹד רַבִּים, כְּגוֹן שֶׁרַבִּים בָּאִים לְנַחֲמוֹ, מֻתָּר לוֹ לוֹמַר לָהֶם לְכוּ לְבָתֵּיכֶם לְשָׁלוֹם, דְּלִכְבוֹד רַבִּים שָׁרֵי.

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
Since he is forbidden to greet anybody, he is certainly forbidden to laugh. Therefore, during the seven days of mourning, he must not take a child in his arms, so he should not be induced to laughter. He is also forbidden to engage in lengthy conversation with people.⁷ 384:9 writes, “It is obviously forbidden for a mourner to read secular books and certainly newspapers.” However, if he does so out of respect for a group of people, as when many come together to console him, he is permitted to say (when they are leaving), "Go to your homes in peace," for out of respect for a group of people, it is permitted.

footnotes:
⁷ Aruch HaShulchan


###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:8
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מָקוֹם שֶׁנָּהֲגוּ לִשְׁאוֹל בִּשְׁלוֹם אֲבֵלִים בַּשַׁבָּת, שׁוֹאֲלִים. וְהָאָבֵל נוֹתֵן שָׁלוֹם לְכָל אָדָם בַשַׁבָּת, כִּי דָבָר שֶׁבְּפַרְהֶסְיָא הוּא.

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
In a place where it is customary to greet the mourners on Shabbos, you may do so. The mourner may greet everybody on Shabbos since it is done publicly.


###### Kitzur Shulchan Arukh 210:9
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מֻתָּר לְבָרֵךְ שֶׁהֶחֱיָנוּ אֲפִלּוּ תּוֹךְ שִׁבְעָה כְּשֶׁהוּא צָרִיךְ, כְּגוֹן בַּחֲנֻכָּה אוֹ עַל פְּרִי חָדָשׁ וְכַדּוֹמֶה.

**Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996:**
He is permitted to say the *berachah, Shehecheyanu* even during the seven days of mourning, when it is necessary, for instance on Chanukah, or when eating a new fruit and the like.