## Nedarim Daf 63b

###### Nedarim 63b:1
[Nedarim 63b:1](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:1)

וְהָתַנְיָא: ״עַד רֹאשׁ חֹדֶשׁ אֲדָר״ — עַד רֹאשׁ חֹדֶשׁ אֲדָר הָרִאשׁוֹן, אִם הָיְתָה שָׁנָה מְעוּבֶּרֶת — עַד רֹאשׁ חֹדֶשׁ אֲדָר הַשֵּׁנִי.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**And,** so too, **it is taught** in a *baraita*: If one vows **until the New Moon of Adar,** the vow remains in effect **until the New Moon of the first Adar,** and **if it was a leap year,** it remains in effect **until the New Moon of the second Adar.**


###### Nedarim 63b:2
[Nedarim 63b:2](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:2)

מִכְּלָל דְּרֵישָׁא לָאו בִּמְעוּבֶּרֶת עָסְקִינַן?! שְׁמַע מִינַּהּ: הָא דִּפְשִׁיטָא לֵיהּ דִּמְעַבְּרָא שַׁתָּא, הָא דְּלָא יָדַע.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
The Gemara analyzes this *baraita*: Does the latter clause prove **by inference that** in **the first clause, we are not dealing with a leap** year? In a regular year there is only one month of Adar, so it is impossible to speak of a first or second Adar. Rather, **learn from it** that **this** latter clause is referring to a case **where** it **is obvious to him that the year was extended,** and therefore when he refers to the month of Adar he means the second Adar, whereas **that** first clause is referring to a case **where** he **did not know** that it was a leap year, in which case he means the first Adar.


###### Nedarim 63b:3
[Nedarim 63b:3](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:3)

**מַתְנִי׳** רַבִּי יְהוּדָה אוֹמֵר: ״קֻוֽנָּם יַיִן שֶׁאֵינִי טוֹעֵם עַד שֶׁיְּהֵא הַפֶּסַח״ — לֹא נִתְכַּוֵּון זֶה אֶלָּא עַד לֵיל הַפֶּסַח, עַד שָׁעָה שֶׁדֶּרֶךְ בְּנֵי אָדָם לִשְׁתּוֹת יַיִן.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**MISHNA:** **Rabbi Yehuda says:** In the case of one who says: **Wine is *konam*** for me, and for **that** reason **I will not taste** it **until it will be Passover,** it is understood that **this** individual **intended** for his vow to apply **only until the night of Passover,** i.e., **until the time when it is customary for people to drink wine** in order to fulfill the mitzva of drinking the four cups, but he did not intend to prevent himself from being able to fulfill this mitzva.


###### Nedarim 63b:4
[Nedarim 63b:4](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:4)

אָמַר ״קֻוֽנָּם בָּשָׂר שֶׁאֵינִי טוֹעֵם עַד שֶׁיְּהֵא הַצּוֹם״ — אֵינוֹ אָסוּר אֶלָּא עַד לֵילֵי צוֹם, שֶׁלֹּא נִתְכַּוֵּון זֶה אֶלָּא עַד שָׁעָה שֶׁדֶּרֶךְ בְּנֵי אָדָם לֶאֱכוֹל בָּשָׂר. רַבִּי יוֹסֵי בְּנוֹ אוֹמֵר: ״קֻוֽנָּם שׁוּם שֶׁאֲנִי טוֹעֵם עַד שֶׁתְּהֵא שַׁבָּת״, אֵינוֹ אָסוּר אֶלָּא עַד לֵילֵי שַׁבָּת, שֶׁלֹּא נִתְכַּוֵּון זֶה אֶלָּא עַד שָׁעָה שֶׁדֶּרֶךְ בְּנֵי אָדָם לֶאֱכוֹל בְּשׁוּם.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
Similarly, if he said: **Meat is *konam*** for me, and for **that** reason **I will not taste** it **until it will be the fast** of Yom Kippur, **he is prohibited** from eating meat **only until the eve of [*leilei*] the fast.** This is **because** it is understood that **this** individual **intended** for his vow to apply **only until the time when it is customary for people to eat meat** in the festive meal before the fast, and he did not intend to prevent himself from being able to participate in that meal. **Rabbi Yosei, his son, says:** One who vows: **Garlic is *konam*** for me, and for **that** reason **I** will not **taste** it **until it will be Shabbat, it is prohibited** for him to eat garlic **only until the eve of Shabbat, as** it is understood that **this** individual **intended** for his vow to apply **only until the time when it is customary for people to eat garlic.**


###### Nedarim 63b:5
[Nedarim 63b:5](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:5)

הָאוֹמֵר לַחֲבֵירוֹ ״קֻוֽנָּם שֶׁאֲנִי נֶהֱנֶה לְךָ אִם אֵין אַתְּ בָּא וְנוֹטֵל לְבָנֶיךָ כּוֹר אֶחָד שֶׁל חִטִּין וּשְׁתֵּי חָבִיּוֹת שֶׁל יַיִן״ — הֲרֵי זֶה יָכוֹל לְהָפֵר אֶת נִדְרוֹ שֶׁלֹּא עַל פִּי חָכָם. וְיֹאמַר לוֹ: כְּלוּם אָמַרְתָּ אֶלָּא מִפְּנֵי כְבוֹדִי — זֶהוּ כְּבוֹדִי.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
In the case of **one who says to another: Benefiting from you is *konam* for me,** i.e., I am prohibited from deriving benefit from you, **if you do not come and take for your son one *kor* of wheat and two barrels of wine** as a gift, **this** other individual **can dissolve his vow without** the **consent** of **a halakhic authority.** This is because **he** can **say to him:** Did **you say** your vow for **any** reason **other than due to my honor,** in order to convince me to accept a gift for my son? **This is my honor,** that I refrain from accepting the gift, and consequently the vow is annulled.


###### Nedarim 63b:6
[Nedarim 63b:6](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:6)

וְכֵן הָאוֹמֵר לַחֲבֵירוֹ ״קֻוֽנָּם שֶׁאַתְּ נֶהֱנֵית לִי אִם אֵין אַתְּ בָּא וְנוֹתֵן לִבְנִי כּוֹר שֶׁל חִטִּין וּשְׁתֵּי חָבִיּוֹת שֶׁל יַיִן״, רַבִּי מֵאִיר אוֹמֵר: אָסוּר עַד שֶׁיִּתֵּן, וַחֲכָמִים אוֹמְרִים: אַף זֶה יָכוֹל לְהָפֵר אֶת נִדְרוֹ שֶׁלֹּא עַל פִּי חָכָם, וְיֹאמַר לוֹ: הֲרֵי אֲנִי כְּאִילּוּ נִתְקַבַּלְתִּי.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**And, so too,** in the case of **one who says to another: Benefiting from me is *konam* for you,** i.e., you are prohibited from deriving benefit from me, **if you do not come and give my son one *kor* of wheat and two barrels of wine, Rabbi Meir says:** It is **prohibited** for the other individual to benefit from the speaker **until he gives** the gifts to his son. However, **the Rabbis say: Even this** individual who took the vow **can dissolve his** own **vow without** the **consent of a halakhic authority.** This is because **he** can **say to him: I hereby** consider it **as though I have received** the gift.


###### Nedarim 63b:7
[Nedarim 63b:7](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:7)

הָיָה מְסָרֵב בּוֹ לָשֵׂאת בַּת אֲחוֹתוֹ, וְאָמַר ״קֻוֽנָּם שֶׁהִיא נֶהֱנֵית לִי לְעוֹלָם״, וְכֵן הַמְגָרֵשׁ אֶת אִשְׁתּוֹ, אוֹמֵר ״קֻוֽנָּם אִשְׁתִּי נֶהֱנֵית לִי לְעוֹלָם״ — הֲרֵי אֵלּוּ מוּתָּרוֹת לֵהָנוֹת לוֹ, שֶׁלֹּא נִתְכַּוֵּון זֶה אֶלָּא לְשׁוּם אִישׁוּת.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
If an individual **was urging** another **to marry the daughter of his sister, and** in order to deflect the pressure, the other man **said: Benefiting from me is *konam* for her forever,** i.e., she is prohibited from deriving any benefit from me forever, **and, so too,** if there is **one who divorces his wife** and **says: Benefiting from me is *konam*** for **my wife forever, these** women **are permitted to** derive **benefit from him, as this** man **intended** to take this vow **only for the purpose** of prohibiting **marriage** between them, but not to prohibit all forms of benefit.


###### Nedarim 63b:8
[Nedarim 63b:8](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:8)

הָיָה מְסָרֵב בַּחֲבֵירוֹ שֶׁיֹּאכַל אֶצְלוֹ, אָמַר: ״קֻוֽנָּם לְבֵיתְךָ שֶׁאֲנִי נִכְנָס, טִיפַּת צוֹנֵן שֶׁאֲנִי טוֹעֵם לָךְ״ — מוּתָּר לִיכָּנֵס לְבֵיתוֹ וְלִשְׁתּוֹת מִמֶּנּוּ צוֹנֵן, שֶׁלֹּא נִתְכַּוֵּון זֶה אֶלָּא לְשׁוּם אֲכִילָה וּשְׁתִיָּה.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
Similarly, if one **was urging another** to **eat with him,** and the latter **said: Entering your house** is ***konam*** for **me,** as is **tasting** even **a drop of cold liquid of yours,** the individual who took the vow is nevertheless **permitted to enter his house and to drink a cold** beverage **of his.** This is **because this** individual **intended** to take this vow **only for the purpose of eating and drinking** a meal, but not to prohibit himself from entering the house entirely or from drinking in small quantities (Commentary on *Nedarim*).


###### Nedarim 63b:9
[Nedarim 63b:9](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Nedarim/r/63b:9)

**הֲדַרַן עֲלָךְ קֻוֽנָּם יַיִן**