## Nedarim Daf 79a

###### Nedarim 79a:1
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שֶׁהַשְּׁתִיקָה מְקַיֶּימֶת, וְאֵין שְׁתִיקָה מְבַטֶּלֶת. קִיֵּים בְּלִבּוֹ — קַיָּים, הֵפֵר בְּלִבּוֹ — אֵינוֹ מוּפָר. קִיֵּים — אֵין יָכוֹל לְהָפֵר, הֵפֵר — אֵין יָכוֹל לְקַיֵּים. קָתָנֵי: שֶׁהַשְּׁתִיקָה מְקַיֶּימֶת, מַאי לָאו בְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְמֵיקַט?

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**that silence ratifies** a vow, **but silence does not cancel,** i.e., nullify, a vow. If the husband **ratified** a vow **in his heart, it is ratified,** but if **he nullified** it **in his heart, it is not nullified.** The *baraita* adds: **If he ratified** a vow **he can no longer nullify** it; and similarly, **if he nullified** a vow **he can no longer ratify** it. In any case, the *baraita* **teaches that silence ratifies** a vow. **What, is it not** referring even **to one who is silent in order to annoy** his wife?


###### Nedarim 79a:2
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לֹא, בְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְקַיֵּים. הַיְינוּ: קִיֵּים בְּלִבּוֹ קַיָּים! אֶלָּא בְּשׁוֹתֵק סְתָם.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
The Gemara rejects this interpretation: **No,** it is referring **to one who is silent in order to sustain** the vow. The Gemara asks: If so, **this is** the same as: **If** the husband **ratified** a vow **in his heart, it is ratified. Rather,** the phrase in the *baraita*: Silence ratifies a vow, is referring **to** a case where the husband **is silent without specifying** his intent.


###### Nedarim 79a:3
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אַשְׁכְּחַן חוֹמֶר בְּהָקֵם מִבְּהָפֵר, בְּהָפֵר מִבְּהָקֵם מְנָא לַן? אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹחָנָן: נִשְׁאָלִין עַל הֶהָקֵם, וְאֵין נִשְׁאָלִין עַל הֶהָפֵר.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
Relating to the *baraita*, the Gemara asks: **We found** how the *halakha* is more **stringent in ratification** of vows **than in nullification** of vows, but **where** do **we** find a case **in** which the *halakha* is more stringent **in nullification than in ratification? Rabbi Yoḥanan says: One can request** from a halakhic authority dissolution of **the ratification** of a vow his wife took, **but one cannot request** dissolution of **the nullification** of a vow.


###### Nedarim 79a:4
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מֵתִיב רַב כָּהֲנָא: ״וְאִם הַחֲרֵשׁ יַחֲרִישׁ לָהּ אִישָׁהּ וְגוֹ׳״, בְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְמֵיקַט הַכָּתוּב מְדַבַּר. אַתָּה אוֹמֵר בְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְמֵיקַט, אוֹ אֵינוֹ אֶלָּא בְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְקַיֵּים?

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**Rav Kahana raised an objection** to the opinion of Rabbi Ḥanina that a husband who is silent about his wife’s vow in order to annoy her can nullify it even several days later. A *baraita* teaches: **“But if her husband altogether hold his peace at her** from day to day, then he causes all her vows to be ratified” (Numbers 30:15). **The verse is speaking of one who is silent in order to annoy** his wife. Do **you say** that the verse is referring **to one who is silent in order to annoy** her, **or it is** referring **only to one who is silent in order to ratify** the vow?


###### Nedarim 79a:5
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כְּשֶׁהוּא אוֹמֵר ״כִּי הֶחֱרִשׁ לָהּ״, הֲרֵי בְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְקַיֵּים הַכָּתוּב מְדַבֵּר, הָא מָה אֲנִי מְקַיֵּים ״אִם הַחֲרֵשׁ יַחֲרִישׁ לָהּ אִישָׁהּ״ — בְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְמֵיקַט הַכָּתוּב מְדַבֵּר! תְּיוּבְתָּא.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
The *baraita* continues: **When it says,** in the continuation of the same verse: “He has ratified them, **because he held his peace at her** on the day that he heard them” (Numbers 30:15), **the verse is speaking of one who is silent in order to ratify** the vow. **How do I realize** the meaning of: **“If her husband altogether holds his peace at her”?** It must be that **the verse is speaking of one who is silent in order to annoy** his wife, and that this is also considered an act of ratification. This *baraita* is **a conclusive refutation [*teyuveta*]** of Rabbi Ḥanina’s opinion.


###### Nedarim 79a:6
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וְלוֹקֵים: הָא — בְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְקַיֵּים, הָא — בְּשׁוֹתֵק סְתָם! קְרָאֵי יַתִּירִי כְּתִיבִי.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
The Gemara asks about this *baraita*: **And let** the *tanna* **interpret this** part of the verse as referring **to one who is silent in order to ratify** the vow, and **that** part of the same verse as referring **to one who was silent without specifying** his intent, as the Gemara suggests above in explanation of the *baraita*? The Gemara answers: **Superfluous verses are written** about silence, leading to the conclusion that whatever the reason for the husband’s silence, the vow is ratified.


###### Nedarim 79a:7
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מֵתִיב רָבָא: נָדְרָה עִם חֲשֵׁכָה — מֵפֵר לָהּ עַד שֶׁלֹּא חָשְׁכָה, שֶׁאִם לֹא הֵפֵר וְחָשְׁכָה — אֵינוֹ יָכוֹל לְהָפֵר. אַמַּאי? לֶהֱוֵי כְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְמֵיקַט! תְּיוּבְתָּא.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**Rava raised** a further **objection** to the opinion of Rabbi Ḥanina, from a mishna (76b): If **she took a vow** on Friday **with nightfall** approaching, her father or husband **can nullify** the vow only **until nightfall, since, if it became dark and he had not** yet **nullified** her vow, **he cannot nullify** it anymore. **Why** should this be so? **Let** the fact that the husband refrained from nullifying the vow out of respect for Shabbat be regarded **like one who is silent in order to annoy** his wife, who, according to Rav Huna, can still nullify the vow later. The fact that this is not the case is **a conclusive refutation** of the opinion of Rabbi Ḥanina.


###### Nedarim 79a:8
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מֵתִיב רַב אָשֵׁי: ״יוֹדֵעַ אֲנִי שֶׁיֵּשׁ נְדָרִים, אֲבָל אֵינִי יוֹדֵעַ שֶׁיֵּשׁ מְפִירִין״ — יָפֵר. ״יוֹדֵעַ אֲנִי שֶׁיֵּשׁ מְפִירִין, אֲבָל אֵינִי יוֹדֵעַ שֶׁזֶּה נֶדֶר״, רַבִּי מֵאִיר אוֹמֵר: לֹא יָפֵר, וַחֲכָמִים אוֹמְרִים: יָפֵר.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**Rav Ashi** also **raised an objection** to Rabbi Ḥanina’s opinion, from another mishna (87b): If a husband or father said, after failing to nullify a vow on the day he heard it: **I know that there are vows, but I do not know that there are those who** can **nullify** vows, i.e., he was unaware that he can nullify a vow, **he can nullify** it even after the day he heard it. However, if he said: **I know there are those who nullify, but** I refrained from nullifying the vow because **I do not know that this is** considered **a vow** that I could nullify, **Rabbi Meir says: He cannot nullify** at this point, **but the Rabbis say:** Even in this case **he can nullify** the vow when he discovers his error.


###### Nedarim 79a:9
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וְאַמַּאי? לֶיהֱוֵי כְּשׁוֹתֵק עַל מְנָת לְמֵיקַט! תְּיוּבְתָּא.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
Rav Ashi asks rhetorically: **But why** may he not nullify according to Rabbi Meir’s opinion? **Let** his silence by mistake be **like** that of **one who is silent in order to annoy,** who, according to Rabbi Ḥanina, can nullify the vow at a later stage. This is **a conclusive refutation** of Rabbi Ḥanina’s opinion.


###### Nedarim 79a:10
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**הָדְרָן עֲלָךְ נַעֲרָה הַמְאוֹרָסָה**


###### Nedarim 79a:11
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**וְאֵלּוּ נְדָרִים** שֶׁהוּא מֵפֵר: דְּבָרִים שֶׁיֵּשׁ בָּהֶן עִנּוּי נֶפֶשׁ: ״אִם אֶרְחַץ״ וְ״אִם לֹא אֶרְחַץ״, ״אִם אֶתְקַשֵּׁט״ וְ״אִם לֹא אֶתְקַשֵּׁט״.

**William Davidson Edition - English:**
**MISHNA:** **And these are** the **vows that he,** the husband or father, **can nullify:** The first category consists of **matters that involve affliction** for the woman who took the vow. For example, if a woman vowed: **If I bathe, or: If I do not bathe;** if she vowed: **If I adorn myself [*etkashet*], or: If I do not adorn myself.**