## Tosefta Kiddushin Chapter 3

###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:1
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:1](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:1)

האומר לאשה הרי את מקודשת לי בפקדון שיש לי בידך הלכה ומצאתו שנגנב או שאבד אם נשתייר בידה ש"פ מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת ובמלוה אע"פ שנשתייר בידה ש"פ אינה מקודשת ר"ש בר"א אומר מלוה כפקדון אם נשתייר בידה ש"פ מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת.

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
A man who says to a woman, "Behold you are betrothed to me with this deposited item that I own but that is in your control" [i.e. he deposited an item with her previously and wants to betroth by giving her the item to keep], if she went and found that it was stolen or lost/destroyed, if there is still left in her control something worth a perutah [i.e. that there is enough value left in whatever of the item remains after being stolen or damaged]—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed. (The following translated from Ehrfurt manuscript:) But with a loan [i.e. if he had a loan with her and he offered to forgive the loan as her betrothal money], even if there was not left in her control something worth a perutah [even if she hased used the money from the loan]—she is betrothed. Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar said in the name of Rabbi Meir: A loan is like a deposit: if there is left in her control something worth a perutah—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed.


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:2
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:2](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:2)

האומר לאשה הרי את מקודשת לי ע"מ שאדבר עליך לשלטון ואעשה עמך כפועל ונתן לה ש"פ ה"ז מקודשת מיד עד שיאמר לא דברתי ולא עשיתי דברי ר"מ וחכ"א אם נתקיים התנאי מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת רשב"ג אומר אין תנאי בכתובים שאינו כפול.

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
A man who said to a woman: "Behold you are betrothed to me with the understanding that I will talk to the ruler about you"; "[With the understanding that] I will work as a labourer with you", and he gave her something worth a perutah—she is betrothed immediately [even if he hasn't fulfilled his condition yet], until he says "I didn't speak [to the ruler]" or "I didn't work [as a labourer]" [when she becomes retroactively never betrothed]—words of Rabbi Meir. But Hakhamim say: If the stipulation is fulfilled—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed. (But see Lieberman who thinks this is about tenai kaful.) Rabban Shimon ben Gamliel says: There is no [valid] stipulation in the ketubah that isn't doubled (tenai kaful, that explains what would happen both if he did the thing he promised and also if he didn't do it).


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:3
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:3](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:3)

ע"מ שאדבר עליך לשלטון אם דבר עמה כדרך המדברים מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת [במה שאדבר עליך לשלטון אם דבר עמה בש"פ מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת].

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
"[Be betrothed to me] with the understanding that I will speak about you to the ruler" [and he also gave her something worth a perutah], if he spoke about her in the way of casual conversation—she is betrothed [meaning: this is the minimum amount of speech that would fulfil the stipulation, but note "כדרך מדברים" doesn't appear in the Ehrfurt manuscript]; but if not—she is not betrothed. [If he said,] "[Be betrothed to me] for the price of me speaking about you to the ruler", if he spoke about her about something worth a perutah—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed.


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:4
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:4](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:4)

[במה שאעשה עמך כפועל] אם עשה עמה בש"פ מקודשת בפעולה שאעשה עמך אם עשה עמה בש"פ מקודשת ואם לאו אין מקודשת ע"מ שאעשה עמך בפעולה למחר עשה עמה בש"פ מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת.

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
(Translated from the Ehrfurt manuscript:) [If he said,] "[Be betrothed to me] for the price the daily work (melakhah) that I will do with you", if he did [work for her] that was worth a perutah—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed. "[Be betrothed to me] for the price of the [physical] labour that I will do with you", if he did [labour] with her worth a perutah—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed. "With the understanding that I will do [physical] labour with you", or "With the understanding that I will do labour with you tomorrow" [and he also gave her something worth a perutah], if he acted with her in the manner of labourers—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed.


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:5
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:5](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:5)

ע"מ שיש לי מאתים זוז ה"ז מקודשת שמא יש לו בסוף העולם ע"מ שיש לי במקום פלוני אם יש לו באותו מקום מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת [ע"מ שיש לי ביד פלוני אע"פ שאמר אין לו בידי מקודשת שמא עשו קנוניא עד שיאמר יש לו בידי אם אמר יש לו בידי מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת].

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
"[Be betrothed to me] with the understanding that I have 200 zuz"—she is betrothed, [for] perhaps he will have it at the end of the world. "With the understanding that I have 200 zuz in a certain place", if he has that much in that place—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed. "With the understanding that I have it [but it is] with Ploni", even though he [Ploni] said "He has nothing in my domain"—she is betrothed, lest they make a conspiratorial partnership [to defraud her of her get]. Until he says "He has something in my domain"—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed.


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:6
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:6](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:6)

[ע"מ שאראך מאתים זוז אם הראה על השולחן אינה מקודשת שלא אמר להראותן אלא משלו] ע"מ שיש לי בית כור עפר ה"ז מקודשת שמא יש לו בסוף העולם ע"מ שיש לי במקום פלוני אם יש לו באותו מקום מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת ע"מ שאראך בית כור עפר אם הראה בבקעה אינה מקודשת שלא אמר להראות אלא משלו.

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
"[Be betrothed to me] with the understanding that I will show you 200 zuz", if he showed [200 zuz randomly lying] on the table—she is not betrothed, for [we assume the understanding of those words is that he would] only show her [money] that belonged to him. "With the understanding that I have a beit kor of earth"—she is betrothed, for perhaps he will have it at the end of the world. "With the understanding that I have [a beit kor] in a certain place", if he has it in that place—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed. "With the understanding that I will show you a beit kor of earth", if he showed [it] to her in the valley [where no one owns the land]—she is not betrothed, for he only said to show to her what was his.


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:7
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:7](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:7)

ע"מ שירצה פלוני אע"פ שאמר איני רוצה מקודשת שמא ירצה לאחר שעה עד שיאמר רוצה אני אם אמר רוצה אני מקודשת ואם לאו אינה מקודשת ע"מ שירצה אבא אע"פ שלא רצה האב ה"ז מקודשת [שמא יתרצה האב לאחר שעה מת האב מקודשת שמא] נתרצה האב שעה אחת לפני מיתתו מת הבן זה היה מעשה ובאו ולמדו את האב שיאמר איני רוצה.

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
"[Be betrothed to me] with the understanding that Ploni is happy with it", even if [Ploni] said "I'm not happy with it"—she is betrothed, lest they form a conspiracy (sic! based on Ehrfurt manuscript). Until he said "I want it", if he says "I want it"—she is betrothed; but if not—she is not betrothed. "With the understanding that my father is happy with it", even if his father does not want it—she is betrothed, for perhaps he will be happy another time. If the father dies—she is betrothed. If the son dies—this actually happened and they came and taught the father to say "I do not want this".


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:8
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:8](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:8)

כל תנאי שיש בו מעשה בתחילתו תנאו בטל כיצד הריני חולצך ע"מ שירצה אבא אע"פ שלא רצה האב ה"ז מקודשת הריני בועלך ע"מ שירצה אבא אע"פ שלא רצה האב מקודשת רשב"א אומר [משם] ר"מ רצה האב מקודשת לא רצה אינה מקודשת שלא היתה בעילה אלא מחמת תנאי הראשון כלל ארשב"א כל תנאי שאפשר לעשות בה ובשלוחה והתנה עמה תנאו קיים וכל שא"א לעשות אלא בגופה והתנה עמה תנאו בטל כיצד הריני מגרשך ע"מ שירצה אבא רצה האב מגורשת [לא רצה האב] אינה מגורשת הריני מקדשך ע"מ שירצה אבא רצה האב מקודשת לא רצה האב אינה מקודשת.

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
(Translated from the Ehrfurt manuscript:) Any stipulation which has the action at the beginning, such a stipulation is invalid. How so? [If he, the brother-in-law whose brother died, said to her, his dead brother's wife,] "Now that I have released you from the levirate bond, with the understanding that my father is happy about it", even if his father doesn't want this—she is divorced [since he already released her with halitzah]. "Now that I have had sex with you, [be betrothed to me] with the understanding that my father is happy about it", even if his father doesn't want this—she is betrothed [since they already had sex, the stipulation is void]. Rabbi Shimon ben Yehudah says in the name of Rabbi Shimon: If the father wants it—she is betrothed, for she only had sex because of that original condition. Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar had a pneumonic: Any stipulation which is possible to do oneself or with an agent and he stipulated about it—his stipulation stands; but any stipulation that is impossible to do except with his body and he stipulated about it—his stipulation is void. How so? "Behold I divorce you with the understanding that my father is happy about it", if the father wants it—she is divorced; but if he doesn't want it—she is not divorced. "Behold I betroth you with the understanding that my father is happy about it", if the father wants it—she is betrothed; but if he doesn't want it—she is not betrothed.


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:9
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:9](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:9)

ע"מ שאם מתי לא תהא זקוקה ליבם ה"ז מקודשת ובטל תנאו שהתנה על מה שכתוב בתורה וכל המתנה על מה שכתוב בתורה תנאו בטל ע"מ שאין ליך עלי שאר כסות ועונה ה"ז מקודשת ותנאו קיים זה הכלל כל המתנה על מ"ש בתורה בדבר שהוא של ממון תנאו קיים בדבר שאינו של ממון תנאו בטל.

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
"[Be betrothed to me] with the understanding that if I die you will not bound to a levir"—she is betrothed but his stipulation is invalid, for he stipulated against what was written in the Torah, and anyone who stipulates against what is written in the Torah, his stipulation is invalid. "With the understanding that I will have no responsibility for you for clothing or sex"—she is betrothed but his stipulation is invalid. This is the pneumonic: Anyone who stipulates against what is written in the Torah regarding a monetary matter—his stipulation stands; with a non-monetary matter—his stipulation is invalid.


###### Tosefta Kiddushin 3:10
[Tosefta Kiddushin 3:10](https://torahapp.org/share/book/Tosefta%20Kiddushin/r/3:10)

ע"מ שאני עשיר אין אומרים כעשיר שבעשירים אלא כל שבני עירו [נוהגין כן] ע"מ שאני ת"ח אין אומרים כשמעון בן עזאי ולא כשמעון בן זומא אלא כל שבני עירו [נוהגין כן] בדינר זה של כסף ונמצא של זהב אינה מקודשת כיצד יעשה [יטלו] הימנה ויחזור [ויתננו] לה ויאמר הרי את מקודשת לי.

**Sefaria Community Translation:**
"[Be betrothed to me] with the understanding that I am rich"—he did not say "the richest of the rich", rather all of the people of his town pay him respect according to his wealth. (Translated according to Ehrfurt manuscript). "With the understanding that I am a sage"—he did not say like either Shimon ben Azzai or Shimon ben Zoma, but all the people of his town pay him respect. "With this silver dinar", but it turned out to be of gold—she is not betrothed. What should he do? Take it from her, return and give it to her, and say to her: "Behold you are betrothed to me."