In episode thirty of the 48 Ways series during the Omer, Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe teaches Ahuv — “to be loved by others.” The way to be loved is simple yet profound: love others first. Our sages teach k’mayim panim el panim — just as water reflects a face, so too does kindness and love reflect back. The more you give love, the more you receive it.
Rabbi Wolbe explains that love is fundamentally about giving, not taking. In marriage, parenting, and friendships, the more selflessly you invest, the deeper the bond and the greater the returned love. Recognize the good others do for you (Hakarat HaTov), thank them, and compliment sincerely — this raises people to live up to the positive image you set. Children especially rise (or fall) to the expectations and words spoken over them.
He emphasizes opening your heart: when you focus on giving rather than receiving, relationships flourish and true happiness follows. The generation’s self-centered “me-first” mindset blocks love, while shifting to “how can I give?” transforms life. Ultimately, being loved flows naturally from becoming a source of love, kindness, and positivity to those around you.
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Recorded in TORCH Centre - Studio A on June 7, 2022, in Houston, Texas.
Released as Podcast on August 10, 2022
The 49 days we count between Pesach (Passover) and Shavuot are an exciting time for powerful and impactful change. The Mishna (Avot 6:6) teaches us 48 masterful tools and ways to maximize life and get the most out of each day.
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