# Hugs Over Criticism: The Mitzvah of Loving Rebuke [Parsha Pearls: Acharei-Kedoshim] 5786

From **Parsha Review Podcast: Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe** by R Aryeh Wolbe.

- **Published:** Fri, 01 May 2026 02:00:00 -0500
- **Duration:** 24:13
- **Audio:** https://dts.podtrac.com/redirect.mp3/media.transistor.fm/61b2765c/0541382f.mp3
- **Page:** https://share.transistor.fm/s/61b2765c
- **TorahApp:** https://torahapp.org/share/p/3P_torch_r_aryeh_wolbe_parsha_review/e/08e2a428-bbca-41b5-9b41-f6db0a75577d

<p>In this episode on <strong>Parshas Kedoshim</strong> (the holiness parsha), Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe focuses on Leviticus 19:17–18: "Do not hate your brother in your heart... You shall surely rebuke your fellow... and do not bear sin because of him," followed by "Love your fellow as yourself — I am Hashem." He explains that hatred must be expressed (not suppressed), but rebuke (tochacha) is only a mitzvah when it will be accepted; otherwise, it's a mitzvah <em>not</em> to rebuke (Yevamos). Embarrassing someone publicly is like "spilling their blood" — a grave sin. True rebuke comes from love ("achicha" — your brother), requires the right time, place, and words, and is often more effective through hugs and positivity than harsh criticism (especially with children).</p><p>Rabbi Wolbe stresses that parents (and all of us) must see others' blind spots and correct with care, as Hashem corrects those He loves. Holiness means rising above natural self-interest to genuinely love and elevate others — not by putting them down, but by helping them grow. This is the path to true kedushah (holiness), mirroring Hashem's ways.</p><p>_____________<br>This episode of the Parsha Review Podcast is dedicated in honor of <strong>Lenny &amp; Teresa Friedman</strong></p><ul><li>Download &amp; Print the Parsha Review Notes:<br><a href="https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ncaRyoH5iJmGGoMZs9y82Hz2ofViVouv?usp=sharing">https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ncaRyoH5iJmGGoMZs9y82Hz2ofViVouv?usp=sharing</a></li></ul><p>Recorded at TORCH Meyerland in the Levin Family Studios (B) to a live audience on April 28, 2026, in Houston, Texas.<br>Released as Podcast on May 1, 2026</p><p>_____________<br><strong>Subscribe: </strong></p><ul><li>Apple Podcasts (<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/parsha-review-podcast-rabbi-aryeh-wolbe/id1651930083">https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/parsha-review-podcast-rabbi-aryeh-wolbe/id1651930083</a>)</li><li>Spotify (<a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/22lv1kXJob5ZNLaAl6CHTQ">https://open.spotify.com/show/22lv1kXJob5ZNLaAl6CHTQ</a>) to stay inspired! </li></ul><p>Share your questions at <a href="mailto:awolbe@torchweb.org"><strong>awolbe@torchweb.org</strong></a> or visit <a href="http://www.torchweb.org/"><strong>torchweb.org</strong></a> for more Torah content.  <br>_____________</p><p><strong>About the Host:</strong><br>Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe, Director of TORCH in Houston, brings decades of Torah scholarship to guide listeners in applying Jewish wisdom to daily life.  To directly send your questions, comments, and feedback: <a href="mailto:awolbe@torchweb.org"><strong>awolbe@torchweb.org</strong></a><br>_____________</p><p><strong>Support Our Mission:</strong><br>Help us share Jewish wisdom globally by sponsoring an episode at <a href="http://www.torchweb.org/"><strong>torchweb.org</strong></a>. Your support makes a difference!<br>_____________<br><strong>Subscribe and Listen </strong>to other podcasts by <a href="https://linktr.ee/ariwol">Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe</a>: </p><ul><li><strong>NEW!! Hey Rabbi! Podcast: </strong><a href="https://heyrabbi.transistor.fm/episodes"><strong>https://heyrabbi.transistor.fm/episodes</strong></a></li><li><strong>Prayer </strong>Podcast: <a href="https://prayerpodcast.transistor.fm/episodes">https://prayerpodcast.transistor.fm/episodes</a></li><li><strong>Jewish Inspiration</strong> Podcast: <a href="https://inspiration.transistor.fm/episodes">https://inspiration.transistor.fm/episodes</a></li><li><strong>Parsha Review</strong> Podcast: <a href="https://parsha.transistor.fm/episodes">https://parsha.transistor.fm/episodes</a></li><li><strong>Living Jewishly</strong> Podcast: <a href="https://jewishly.transistor.fm/episodes">https://jewishly.transistor.fm/episodes</a></li><li><strong>Thinking Talmudist</strong> Podcast: <a href="https://talmud.transistor.fm/episodes">https://talmud.transistor.fm/episodes</a></li><li><strong>Unboxing Judaism</strong> Podcast: <a href="https://unboxing.transistor.fm/episodes">https://unboxing.transistor.fm/episodes</a></li><li><strong>Rabbi Aryeh Wolbe Podcast Collection</strong>: <a href="https://collection.transistor.fm/episodes">https://collection.transistor.fm/episodes</a></li></ul><p>For a full listing of podcasts available by TORCH at <a href="http://podcast.torchweb.org/">http://podcast.torchweb.org</a><br>_____________</p><p><strong>Keywords:</strong><br>#Torah, #Parsha, #Leviticus, #Kedoshim, #BeHoly, #Tochacha, #LoveYourFellow, #VahavtaLreiacha, #Rebuke, #HolyLiving, #AhavatYisrael, #LashonHara, #Kedushah</p>
<strong>
  <a href="https://donate.torchweb.org" rel="payment" title="★ Support this podcast ★">★ Support this podcast ★</a>
</strong>