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Kitzur Shulchan Arukh Siman 148

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עִקַּר הַחֻפָּה הוּא מַה שֶּׁאַחַר הַקִּדּוּשִין מוֹלִיכִין אֶת הֶחָתָן וְהַכַּלָּה לְחֶדֶר מְיֻחָד, וְאוֹכְלִים שָׁם יַחַד בְּמָקוֹם צָנוּעַ. וְיֵשׁ לִמְנֹעַ, שֶׁלֹּא יִכָּנֵס לְשָׁם שׁוּם אָדָם, כְּדֵי שֶׁיִהְיֶה יִחוּד גָּמוּר, וְזוֹהִי הַחֻפָּה הַקּוֹנָה וְעושָׁה נִשּׂוּאִין.

Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996

The most essential part of the chupah is bringing the groom and the bride to a designated private room,¹ 339:32) where they eat together in privacy following the kidushin². You must prevent anybody from entering that room so that there may be absolute privacy. This is the real chupah that consummates and completes the marriage.³ 55:5.

footnotes: ¹ It must be designated specifically for the groom, so that it is like his house, into which he is bringing his wife. (Mishnah Berurah ² The act of consecrating the woman to be his wife. ³ Beis Shmuel

בִּבְתוּלָה, קוֹנֶה יִחוּד זֶה, אַף עַל גַּב דְּאֵינוֹ רָאוּי לַבִּיאָה, כְּגוֹן שֶׁהִיא נִדָּה, אוֹ שֶׁבְּנֵי אָדָם נִכְנָסִין וְיוֹצְאִין שָׁם. (וּכְשֶׁהִיא נִדָּה, בְּעַל כָּרְחוֹ צְרִיכִין שֶׁיִּהְיוּ בְנֵי אָדָם נִכְנָסִין וְיוֹצְאִין שָׁם, דְּאִם לֹא כֵן, אֲסוּרִין לְהִתְיַחֵד קֹדֶם בִּיאָה רִאשׁוֹנָה).

Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996

In the case of a virgin, this yichud (privacy) consummates the marriage even if it is not fit for cohabitation, if for example, she is a niddah, or if people are going in and out of the room. (When she is a niddah it is mandatory that people should be going in and out of the room for if not, they are forbidden to have privacy prior to their first cohabitation.)

אֲבָל בְּאַלְמָנָה, אֵינוֹ קוֹנֶה אֶלָּא יִחוּד הָרָאוּי לַבִּיאָה, דְהַיְנוּ שֶׁהִיא טְהוֹרָה וְאֵין אָדָם נִכְנָס לְשָׁם.

Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996

In the case of a widow the marriage is consummated only when their privacy is appropriate for cohabitation, which means she must be menstrually clean, and no one is able to enter the room.

אֵין עוֹשִׂין קִנְיָן בַּשַׁבָּת. וְלָכֵן אִם הַנִּשׂוּאִין בְּעֶרֶב שַׁבָּת, צְרִיכִין לִזָּהֵר מְאֹד שֶׁיִהְיֶה יִחוּד הַקּוֹנֶה קֹדֶם שַׁבָּת. וַאֲזַי כְּשֶׁנַּעֲשָׂה הַיִחוּד הַקּוֹנֶה מִבְּעוֹד יוֹם, מֻתָּר לָבוֹא עָלֶיהָ בִּאָה רִאשׁוֹנָה בְּשַׁבָּת, בֵּין בִּבְתוּלָה בֵּין בְּאַלְמָנָה. אֲבָל אִם לֹא נַעֲשָׂה הַיִחוּד הַקּוֹנֶה מִבְּעוֹד יוֹם, אָז אָסוּר לָבוֹא עָלֶיהָ בַּשַׁבָּת בִּיאָה רִאשׁוֹנָה, מִשּׁוּם דְּהַבִּיאָה עושָׁה אֶת הַקִנְיָן, וְאֵין קוֹנִין בַּשַׁבָּת (דִּין בְּעִילַת בְּתוּלָה, עַיֵן לְקַמָּן סִימָן קנז)

Kitzur Shulchan Aruch, trans. Rabbi Avrohom Davis, Metsudah Pub., 1996

An acquisition may not be made on Shabbos, and therefore if the wedding took place on Friday, great care must be taken that the yichud consummating the marriage be made before Shabbos sets in. And then, when the yichud consummating the marriage was made while it was yet day, he is permitted to have the initial marital relations on Shabbos, regardless if she is a virgin or a widow. But if the yichud was not made while it was yet day (before Shabbos), then he is forbidden to approach her on Shabbos, for their initial marital relations. This is because cohabitation completes the acquisition, and it is forbidden to make an acquisition on Shabbos.

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