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Sefer HaMiddot, Marriage

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א. מִי שֶׁקָּשֶׁה לוֹ לִמְצא זִוּוּגוֹ יאמַר בְּכַוָּנָה שִׁירַת הַיָּם.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

A person who has difficulty finding a marriage partner should recite “The Song at the Sea” (Exodus 15:1-19) with concentration.

ב. קִדּוּשׁ לְבָנָה – סְגֻלָּה שֶׁיִּמְצָא אָדָם אֶת זִוּוּגוֹ. וְסִימָן לַדָּבָר: "לְבָנָה" – בְּ'תוּלָה נִ'שֵּׂאת לַ'יּוֹם הָ'רְבִיעִי.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

Reciting the Sanctification of the New Moon is a segulah for finding one’s match. This is hinted at by the Hebrew word for moon—LeVaNaH—which is spelled with the first letters of “B’tulah Ni’sait L’yom Har’ve’ee (A virgin marries on the fourth day of the week)” (Ketuvot 2a; see Glossary, “B”).

ג. עַל־יְדֵי חִתּוּן עִם תַּלְמִיד־חָכָם בָּאִים טוֹבוֹת וּבְרָכוֹת לָאָדָם.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

A person gains prosperity and blessing by taking a Torah scholar as his son-in-law.

ד. עַל־יְדֵי חִתּוּן עִם תַּלְמִיד־חָכָם נִצּוֹל מֵענֶשׁ הַבָּא, עַל־יְדֵי שֶׁיָּעַץ עֵצוֹת רָעוֹת עַל חֲבֵרוֹ.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

Taking a Torah scholar as one’s son-in-law saves a person from the punishment he deserves for giving harmful advice to a fellow Jew.

ה. עַל־יְדֵי חִתּוּן עִם תַּלְמִיד־חָכָם עַל־יְדֵי זֶה נִתְמַנִּים דַּיָּנִים כְּשֵׁרִים.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

Taking a Torah scholar as one’s son-in-law brings to the appointment of proper judges.

ו. מִי שֶׁקָּשֶׁה לוֹ לִמְצא זִוּוּגוֹ, יַרְגִּיל אֶת עַצְמוֹ לִקְרוֹת בְּקָרְבְּנוֹת הַנְּשִׂיאִים.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

A person who has difficulty finding a marriage partner should recite the Torah section about the Temple sacrifices brought by the princes of the twelve tribes (Numbers 7).

ז. הַשִּׁדּוּךְ שֶׁדּוֹבְרִים אַף־עַל־פִּי שֶׁאֵינוֹ נִגְמָר הַשִּׁדּוּךְ בְּעַצְמוֹ, גַּם זֶה מִן הַשָּׁמַיִם, וְהַשִּׁדּוּךְ לְחוּד עוֹשֶׂה רשֶׁם בּוֹ וּבָהּ.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

The pairing of potential marriage partners, even if only discussed and never actualized, is also from Heaven. Mere suggestion of the match has an effect on each of the potential partners.

ח. הַכִּסּוּי שֶׁמְּכַסִּין פְּנֵי הַכַּלָּה קדֶם הַחֻפָּה יֵשׁ לָהּ כּחַ הַהוֹלָדָה.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

The veil used to cover a bride before the ceremony carries with it a blessing for children.

ט. עַל־יְדֵי הַתְּפִלָּה יָכוֹל לְשַׁנּוֹת זִוּוּגוֹ הַנִּכְרָז בַּשָּׁמַיִם.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

Through prayer a person can exchange the marriage partner decreed for him in heaven.

י. מִי שֶׁשּׁוֹמֵר אֶת עַצְמוֹ מִלָּלוּן וְגַם לָדוּר שְׁנֵי זוּגוֹת בְּבַיִת אֶחָד, עַל־יְדֵי זֶה זוֹכֶה לְחַתְנוּתָא כּהֲנִים וּבְנֵי־אָדָם חֲשׁוּבִים גְּדוֹלִים.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

When a husband and wife are careful not to share sleeping quarters with another couple, even for one night, they merit having Kohanim and prestigious individuals for sons-in-law.

יא. כְּשֶׁאָדָם נוֹשֵׂא אִשָּׁה אַחַר מִיתַת אִשָּׁה הָרִאשׁוֹנָה, אִשְׁתּוֹ הָרִאשׁוֹנָה מִצְטַעֶרֶת בַּקֶּבֶר.

The aleph bet book, translated by Moshe Mykoff. New York: Breslov Research Institute, 1986

When a widower remarries, his first wife suffers in the grave.