(42) 'The Surrendered Wife' and Marital Intimacy: Hierarchal Power Dynamics Versus Equal and Mutual Partnership

From Intimate Judaism: R Scott Kahn by R Scott Kahn.

Published: Tue, 17 May 2022 00:00:48 +0000
Duration: 54:43
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Last month, Orthodox Jewish journalist Avital Chizhik-Goldschmidt published an article in The Atlantic highlighting the popularity of Laura Doyle's 2001 New York Times bestseller, 'The Surrendered Wife,' among Orthodox Jewish women. Doyle's book provides a practical guide to marital bliss and harmony, suggesting that women stop being critical and demanding of their husbands, respect and trust them, and regularly engage in self-care and "be vulnerable."

Many would consider this to be sound advice, and Doyle's devotees on social media have reported that their marriages underwent a complete transformation after reading the book and applying its principles. In some Orthodox circles, the book's principles are considered to be in line with Jewish values. Yet, the book, which advises women to relinquish control of all finances to their husbands, refrain from negative comments, and "pretend to believe in him even when you don't" has triggered very negative reactions, and concern that these potentially disempowering messages can leave women vulnerable to abuse. Join Rabbi Scott Kahn and Talli Rosenbaum in a discussion of this book in the context of healthy marital dynamics.

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